Thursday, August 9, 2012

Copyrighted Romance


There comes a time in every woman’s life, at least once, where she finds herself curled up on the sofa indulging in the ultimate chick flick. For two hours she is swept away into an ideal world where a complete stranger that wreaks perfection pursues and stops at nothing to sweep her off her feet. And we wonder why we need informational classes on how to protect ourselves from date rape. Moreover, these films favor the idea that a love will be lost as a result of miscommunication or tragedy. Seriously, why does this happen in every movie? This loss becomes the ultimate test for one to prove their love. In doing so, one takes on impossible tasks whether it is slaying a dragon, going across the world to find you, or using your wedding that you just spent over $30,000 as his confession stand. As expected, these grand gestures win one over and they live happily ever after.
Sure, they have predictable story lines and less than creative writing but in all honesty these films can be refreshing. Now although I firmly believe that both sexes can be that individual on the couch, I am going to make use of stereotypes for simplicity sake and identify the woman as the one on the couch. Naturally, company would be appreciated during this two hour session and your man happens to fall victim to this role. Don't have a man? Not surprising considering this is a blog has a tendency to be dedicated to those who have trouble selecting one worthy of introducing to your parents but for this post's sake, imagine there is someone in your life, even if it is seemingly temporary. Now this film viewing can go one of two ways. He will allow himself to be dragged into this ideal date of yours and although he may pass comments, he will sit through the majority of the film with you because, let’s give him some credit, he genuinely wants to make you happy. The other scenario may look a little something like this. “Let me help you get comfortable so you can really enjoy this movie. Ill just be in the other room, I don’t want to bother you.” Well intended but not the best choice.
First thing’s first, as the person who chose to leave during this flick, you can guarantee you will hear about it later. That slick maneuver you used to get out of watching the flick just bought your other half good material for an argument soon to come. More importantly, it is not uncommon that you here women question time and time again, “where has all the romance gone? and quite frankly you're tired of it.
Romance: The expression and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction to another person associate with the act of love. In the context of romantic love relationships, romance implies an expression of one’s deep and strong emotional desired to connect with another person intimately (Wikipedia, 2012).
Yes, I used Wikipedia. This is a Blog, not a grad paper. Everything is going to be okay.
Time and time again women are begging to know where the romance went. As much as I am tired of asking myself the same thing, I can almost guarantee you’re just as tired of hearing it. Do you remember that movie you skipped out on? Yea, that 2 hour film had over 100 maneuvers you could use for an entire courtship and than some. Still at a loss for ideas? Let me name five in order of appearance from one of the most popular romance films out there, The Notebook. 1. Dance with her in the street. It only takes one poorly sung song but it’s cost efficient and you’ll get high marks with her girlfriends. 2. Take her to the lake, a beach or a park where you both can let go and relax. Of course, “get in the water"! 3. Write her a letter. I get it, love letters on paper might be a bit outdated but when she finds it among all the bills, you can only imagine the points you’ll receive. Still apprehensive? Write her an e-mail from work just letting her know she’s on your mind. Don’t worry, I am not asking you to write 365 of them. 4. Prepare a dinner for her in the home. Can’t cook? Me neither. Embrace Grub Hub and choose a great set of dishes. 5. And of course, since we are talking about The Notebook, take full advantage of the rain. It always seems to end well. If you find yourself at a loss on the last one fellas, you probably should have sat through that last movie.
Lesson: We are all so exhausted by our everyday routines in daily living and it is only natural that our relationships become just that, a routine. No one is asking you to become prince charming. Ladies, no one is saying you can’t take part in showing a man a little romance too. Romance is all around us and you have hundreds if not thousands of films that give you anywhere from the most basic to the most extravagant romantic gestures to choose from. I beg you, no more excuses and no more questions asking “where has all the romance gone?” It’s been right in front of you the whole time.

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