“I give the right girl the world if she deserves it.” This
is a text message my girlfriend received after introducing the idea that she
had an expectation to be taken out on a “real” date after countless failed
attempts. This line that was used was nothing unusual. Let me introduce you to
one of the worst and yet overused lines that men have mastered when it comes to
the dating scene: “If you deserve it” and “prove yourself worthy.” Now let us
use it in a sentence. “Prove yourself worthy and I might take you out on a real
date.” Thank you, I am so honored that after your countless missed calls and
texts you are even considering taking me out. “I’d spend money on a girl if she
can prove she’s worth it.” Oh ok, how about I fund your date for you since a
well thought out price efficient date is seemingly impossible. Surprisingly
someone found this line was a good idea, “I’ll actually put it down on you if
you prove you deserve it.” (Looks around). You can’t be serious… Oh, you are
serious. How about I just prove to you that I can do myself better than you ever
could? I deserve that much, right? And of course what so many single women hear,
“I would make you my girlfriend if you can prove you deserve it.” A big round
of applause, I really was looking forwarded to a business deal with you where
romance was nonexistent. Thank you for
keeping me in business gentlemen.
The tables have turned ladies and gentlemen. It appears that
men are no longer the ones looking to prove their self worth to women in order
to achieve our company but rather expect it. Now we all have our theories as to
why this may be. From my observations it is a combination of things where too
many men have been lead to believe they have so much swag by too many thirsty
women that they got nothin’ to prove. In more simplistic words, individuals have
become consumed in an exaggerated sense of self worth that individuals are
unable to find worth in others. Furthermore, too many women fail to stand
ground and set standards leaving women with lower self worth to be readily
available to prove the little they have to offer. I cannot tell you how many
times men have made the idea of me proving my self worth a bargaining chip to
achieve something that only seems wonderful and natural: good company, romance,
sex, relationships, and marriage.
Lesson: Fellas,
requesting women to prove their self worth should not be spoken. This is what a
portion of the dating scene is about, isn’t it? As a gentleman, you take her
out and she shows you a great time, she already has proven herself a call back
and a second date, has she not? If she has shown you vulnerability by allowing
you to take her to bed, she deserves respect the following morning whether it
be the first date or 90 days after. And if she has shown to be a good woman who
provides good company and meets your expectations, she deserves your loyalty,
which may be in fact a title agreed between the two of you. Oh so you’re not
exactly sold on the woman and now that I can understand so simply move on and
move forward but I beg you to refrain your requests in identifying one to prove
one’s self. Gentlemen, I apologize for the inconvenience for getting to know us
and not outlining our self worth on a spread sheet, truly I do but quite
honestly you lost our interest the moment you spoke those poorly executed
lines.
